February 13, 2015
Dear Progress: What if you have convinced yourself you are better alone, because in all other relationships, you’ve given too much of yourself away and have ended up hurt?
Dear Find Yourself: Oh, so you’re going to allow all the times that you got it wrong with Mr. Not For You to kill your vibe? Really? You’re a grown woman, so it’s time that you stop acting like the pouting teenage girl who had her heart broken by the cutie you were crushing on. He asked your homegirl to prom and what did you do? Stomp off to your bedroom, cuddle up with your pillow and decide that you were better off not liking anymore boys…again, ever. Please. Stop it already.
First of all, what have those failed relationships really been trying to teach you? Here are a few thoughts to consider:
Do you give up on your career because you’re faced with adversity? No, you keep your head in the game and keep it moving! Allow yourself the time it takes for you to heal. Don’t give up on love just because you got it wrong in the past. Instead learn who you are, know you’re flaws and shortcomings and more importantly practice a healthy dose of self-love.
Are you trusting men before they’ve even proven that they’re worthy of your trust? Women often complain that men are lying about their intentions with them. Well it’s likely that they could have been saying one thing to you but their actions are saying something else altogether. Right? Well if that’s been the case why would you trust someone whose actions don’t line up with their words? You don’t! Set your standards and stop compromising.
Lastly, are you being the right woman for the wrong man? If you’re doing the same thing and ending up with the same disappointments it’s past time to do it differently. Check yourself and don’t go back to hiding like that disappointed teenager in her feelings. Find the lessons life has been trying to teach you, turn your confidence up and know that the love you have for yourself is enough!
Named one of BRAVA Magazine's 2015 Women to Watch, Sabrina Madison or as you may know her “Heymiss Progress” is a poet, motivational speaker, entrepreneur and change agent. She can be reached through her website, About Sabrina "HeyMiss Progress" Madison, at www.heymissprogress.com.